Blogpost 1: Importance and Essence of 'Closures' in break-ups.

Everyone is entitled to be loved and has the privilege to love one another as well. We are supposed to love one another instead of having hatred, anger or getting envy or jealous towards another person. By showing our affection to the person we desire, we can have the opportunity to build or establish a relationship with them which can lead to an intimate level.

Eric Santos wrote an article called  "Healing takes time:Why closure is necessary to moving on after a break up" According to the article having a closure is really important. It is the first step of moving on. All the hard feelings that you feel towards your ex can be vanish. Though it is not that easy, and there is no easy way of getting rid of it. You have to face it that everything between of you is over.

According to Eric Santos: "I thought I hated my girlfriend after our breakup before I received closure. In reality, I didn’t hate her; I hated that I couldn’t be with her. Once I obtained closure, I came to this realization and accepted the fact that we couldn’t be together." 

This line helped me realized the whole thing. And yes Mr. Erik is right, I dont hate my ex because of our break up. I hate her because we couldn't be together again. Yes its painful and sad though, but we have to accept those things in order to move on. And that is why having a closure is important and it must be done after a break up.


Another good read about this topic was written by Lauren Suval "Finding Closure" from Psych Central. In which he discussed  4 ways of giving your self a closure. Reframe the situation, Feel grateful,  Write a goodbye letter , Allow yourself time to heal. I totally agree with his ways of giving a closure. I just think this would help a lot for those people who is having a hard time of moving on.

According to Krupa Shah: "If you don’t find peace within yourself and the relationship, it can hinder your growth both personally and as a person." 

Yes, it is true. It can just drag you down if you keep on thinking the things that is not supposed to be think. In order to become a better person, we have to release all the anger that is inside in our heart. Whats more important is, instead of getting mad to your ex. Just be thankful for all the things that you had spent together. Treasure all of those and take it as a relationship experience. 

From all the information and data stated above, I agree that a closure in a break up is indeed necessary for it will help me start over again and live my life how it is supposed to be, or even better.