Blogpost 5:Are you ready to enter in a relationship?

"Hey would you be my girlfriend?" This could be one of the lines that will make the girls freak out if ever there are guys that is courting them at the moment. I don't know what will exactly girls would feel if a guy said this. There are questions in our mind that keeps on bothering us. We ask our selves if are we ready to enter in a relationship. We think of the consequences that we have to face in the future if we enter a relationship. We all know that it is not easy to be in a relationship. So yea, Ask your self. Are you really really really ready to enter in a REALationship?

I've read a good article and it was written by James Michael Sama called "10 Ways to Know You're Ready for a Relationship" In which he discussed that If a person is ready to enter a relationship, This person has to determine if he/she is willing to put his/her time and effort to the person that they like. You're willingness to put them first or make them happy first before your own. 

If you think that you're are ready to accept someone as they are. It is also one of the signals that you are ready to be in a relationship. And if you had a long term relationship before with your ex.  Your ex is no longer a factor. You dont care about him/her. You already accept the fact that you and your ex are not going back together again. And you dont feel the same way like you to. If you choose to cut your communication about your ex. It is also a signal that you are ready to love another person in your life. 

According to James Michael Sama : "Your willingness to put them first at times is a signal of your readiness to commit."

This is true. If you really like this person, You will do everything for him/her just to make them happy. We know we are ready to love someone when we realized that we are willing to do everything for the.

Another good read about this topic was wrote by YourTango Experts called by "25 Signs You're Ready For A Relationship" It discussed that there are many signs that you are ready for a relationship, What I observed about this article was if you dont have any problems on being single, then you are now ready to enter in a relationship.  If you thought of your self that you are already complete. You are now  ready to love someone in your life. You dont think that you need to be in a relationship. You think  that you want a relationship.  

You're over to your last relationship. You don't think about it too much, you are not affected anymore on your past. You know you are ready when you are willing to take the risk. You're open minded, You are ready to explore your life. You do not want to lose to your fear of falling in love with someone.  It also said that if you already accept the change that happen to your life and you're ready to grow. You are absolutely ready to start a new relationship.

According to  Amy Johnson: "  I realize someone is ready for love when they want it but don't need it. That's the absolute best place to be: wanting a relationship, believing it would be great, but not needing it for your happiness. Per the point above, being truly happy without it is often the fastest way to bring it about."

I agree with this statement. Needing is different from Wanting. For me if you say needing. You just need it. You dont really want it but you just need it. It cannot be appreciated compared to your wants. Wanting is a big factor, Wanting is not just a like, want is you really like this specific object. You know to your self that if you have this thing you will keep it and protect it with your life. 

You know you are ready to enter in a relationship when you are ready to take the risk of getting your self hurt. but, loving someone, you're ready when you're able to put the needs of other people infront of you than on your own needs.  You're ready to get loved to learn and to get hurt. 

Blogpost 4: How to strengthen a Relationship?

If we're in a relationship, We are still finding ways on how are we going to strenghten the relationship that we have right now, Because we are still not sure if whats going to happen next. We want our relationship to be secured. We dont want to end up on breaking up with our love ones right? I hope this blog of mine will help us guys to learn what we have to learn to strenghten our relationship with our partner.  

Heather Prouty wrote an article about on how to strengthen a relationship called "8 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship" In which she discussed the ways of  how to strenghten a relationship. In this article it says that if we want to have a stronger relationship,  we must treat our partner just like how we treat our friends but of course in more special way. We have to support them, laugh with them. cherish the moments with them, and always respect your partners decision. Stay connected to each other.

Spend your time with each other when you are together, Always make it memorable. Give your partner a total quality/bonding time.  make him/her smile every single time. Also let your partner feel how much you love him/her. Always make them feel that we love them.  If we're having an argument don't let it come to worst case. 

Don't brought up things that is left in the past. last month,last week,last year. don't do that. It will just make the situation worst if we do that. Be a good listener on whats your partner saying. Because if not, it might lead you two to a misunderstanding situations that is commonly happening to other couples. 

According to Heather Prouty: "When disagreements surface, keep them short. "No more than 10 minutes," says Kaplan. "After 10 minutes, it gets nasty and repetitive." 

I totally agree with this statement, When I was still in a relationship, I got into many fights with my ex girlfriend, We always argue. From small things it becomes a big things, I don't blame my ex girlfriend about this one, but I think generally speaking. All girls loves to argue, They wouldn't just want to lose to an argument. And I believe, In a relationship, No one can win an argument with a girl. I believe in this saying.

Another good read article was written by Leslie Frey called "21 Ways To Strengthen Struggling Relationships" She also has many ideas about on how to make the relationship stronger, There are really many many ways to strenghten it, If you're in a relationship it has to be also your priority, People spent a lot of time and effort on their partner. It's like a company. We invest our money, time,effort and emotions to it. It's not just a simple relationship.  Accept disappointment, because sometimes our expectations are too high. If your partner doesn't reach your expectation you'll  just get disappointed. 

And also it mentioned that if you're having a fight. Dont use any insulting words that can offend your partner. If you're having a fight, just focus on the fight, but do not insult your partner. It will just make the situation  worst than you can imagine. Do not keep secrets from your partner. It can reduce his/her trust to you. It will make them think that you're cheating even if its not. 

 It also says that be true to your word. If you don't. Again you're just going to disappoint your partner. Of course they're expecting you to do what you said. Do not say anything that you cannot actually do. If you're going to say something be sure that you will do it. 

According to Leslie Frey: "Believe That Your Partner Has Good Intentions."

Yes, I agree with this, our partner wouldn't put us to trouble if they really love us, If there are times that we don't trust his/her decision. Always remember that our partner only thinks what's the best for us not what's bad for us. 

Blogpost 3: Relationship Round 2?

Love is sweeter at the second time around? is this  true? a part of me is telling me that it's not true, and the other part of me is telling me that it is true. Why? for the part that is telling me that it is true is because, you know each other for too long, you already know the flaws of each other, you still miss that person that makes your world amazing. even sometimes you're fighting with each other, you dont care, it is still a part of relationship. whether you fight or not. you still love that person. And for the part that is telling me it is not true it is because there are times that we think that it cannot be work out again. It will just end up of breaking up again with your partner.

I've read a great article wrote by eHarmony called "Can Love be Sweeter the Second Time Around?"

According to the article A love can be sweeter at the second time around because, We already know what is the right and what is wrong. We wouldn't do the same mistakes that we did before. We have the experience to survive the second time relationship. We are not the same person that we used to be. 

According to eHarmony:  "Why? Because you are not the same person you were then. Chances are, your experience has changed the way you give and receive love for the better. These changes are assets, not liabilities, when you decide to try again."

I agree with this statement because even we're not talking about relationship we can see that when people are given second chances they tend to do different things than what they used to before, this gives us the idea that second chances might still work but, the person who is given a second chance is going to play safe. 

Another good read about this topic was written by Juny: "They say love is sweeter the second time around" in which she believes that, not all second time relationship works. Because not all couples have the same love story. All couples broke up in a different way. All of it has a different reasons. Not all relationships has a happy ending. It still has  no assurance if this second time around relationship could still work like it used to be. We wouldn't know what will happen next.

According to Juny:  “love is sweeter the second time around” I don’t think it can be applied generally, maybe it works to few but not to everyone. Not every love story has a plot to follow and must end accordingly as it is written."

In my opinion, i think that everybody deserves a second chance, but people should not give it easily, sometimes if we want to have a second chance we need to put an effort to show the person we love that we can change and for the better. 

I've learned that not all people believe in a love is sweeter at the second time around. Some people say that it is sweeter because you know each other for to to long. there is still a chance that it can still work out, And some people don't for some reasons, but for me, the part of me that believes that it is true is more dominating than it is not true. 

Blogpost 2: Why do people realize the value of the person when they're gone?

When I iwas 16 years old. I entered the world of being in a serious relationship. I know I was too young for that at that time. But then, Our relationship lasts for four years and six months. We've been  through a lot of situations that i believe that normal couples couldn't handle the way we do. It's not easy to be in a serious relationship. We have to be responsible for all the things that we do and we say.  There are things that is hard to let go but we have to. Sometimes we realize the value of the person that we loved for a long time after break up. Sometimes the people we love are the ones who keeps on hurting us.


I' ve read a good article  wrote by Ashley Fern called "The Truth Behind ‘You Don’t Know What You Have Until It’s Gone’" According to the article. We dont realize the worth of the person that we loved because, We always take them for granted, we are too comfortable that the person we love will NEVER leave us.

Sometimes we don't appreciate the things that we already have. We don't realize how lucky we are to be with the person who's always with us. No matter how hard life is they are always on our side to support but we always take them for granted.


According to Ashley Fern: “Appreciate what you have before it becomes what you had.”

Yes, this is true, Before, I do not appreciate all the things that happened to me.  I am too confident that I can surive all the things that can happen. I am the type of person who  always don't care of everything until I realized it is already gone.  But now, I learned that everything around us should be appreciated because we wouldn't know when it will fade.

Another good read  about this topic was written by Brianna Wiest "The Things We Never Realize Until It’s Too Late"  in which she discussed that we realize  the worth of all the the best things that we had when it is already gone.  We do not know what is the best for us. We think that we are not yet satisfied on what we have. We always search for more, we thought that there are things that is better than we have right now. We do not appreciate the worth of this things until we made a mistakes.

According to Brianna Wiest:  "The only thing that we look back and regret is not having enjoyed what we had when we had it."


We have to appreciate all the things that can happen to us. Because one day it can be gone like a bubble.  We cannot go back in time and fix all the mistakes that we did. The only thing we can do for now is to learn from it and move on.


While writing this paper. I also realized that all of us have to appreciate all the things that we have now. What we have now is not permanent. Because, sooner or later it can be gone.