Heather Prouty wrote an article about on how to strengthen a relationship called "8 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship" In which she discussed the ways of how to strenghten a relationship. In this article it says that if we want to have a stronger relationship, we must treat our partner just like how we treat our friends but of course in more special way. We have to support them, laugh with them. cherish the moments with them, and always respect your partners decision. Stay connected to each other.
Spend your time with each other when you are together, Always make it memorable. Give your partner a total quality/bonding time. make him/her smile every single time. Also let your partner feel how much you love him/her. Always make them feel that we love them. If we're having an argument don't let it come to worst case.
Don't brought up things that is left in the past. last month,last week,last year. don't do that. It will just make the situation worst if we do that. Be a good listener on whats your partner saying. Because if not, it might lead you two to a misunderstanding situations that is commonly happening to other couples.
According to Heather Prouty: "When disagreements surface, keep them short. "No more than 10 minutes," says Kaplan. "After 10 minutes, it gets nasty and repetitive."
I totally agree with this statement, When I was still in a relationship, I got into many fights with my ex girlfriend, We always argue. From small things it becomes a big things, I don't blame my ex girlfriend about this one, but I think generally speaking. All girls loves to argue, They wouldn't just want to lose to an argument. And I believe, In a relationship, No one can win an argument with a girl. I believe in this saying.
Another good read article was written by Leslie Frey called "21 Ways To Strengthen Struggling Relationships" She also has many ideas about on how to make the relationship stronger, There are really many many ways to strenghten it, If you're in a relationship it has to be also your priority, People spent a lot of time and effort on their partner. It's like a company. We invest our money, time,effort and emotions to it. It's not just a simple relationship. Accept disappointment, because sometimes our expectations are too high. If your partner doesn't reach your expectation you'll just get disappointed.
And also it mentioned that if you're having a fight. Dont use any insulting words that can offend your partner. If you're having a fight, just focus on the fight, but do not insult your partner. It will just make the situation worst than you can imagine. Do not keep secrets from your partner. It can reduce his/her trust to you. It will make them think that you're cheating even if its not.
It also says that be true to your word. If you don't. Again you're just going to disappoint your partner. Of course they're expecting you to do what you said. Do not say anything that you cannot actually do. If you're going to say something be sure that you will do it.
According to Leslie Frey: "Believe That Your Partner Has Good Intentions."
Yes, I agree with this, our partner wouldn't put us to trouble if they really love us, If there are times that we don't trust his/her decision. Always remember that our partner only thinks what's the best for us not what's bad for us.
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